In this case, I am talking about letting go. Letting go of the negativity around you and in your lives; Letting go of bad feelings towards yourself for the inability to do something or the way you look; Letting go of the past; Letting go of jealousies and anxieties that keep you from moving forward in the present and future; Letting go of hurt and anger towards people; Letting go of people from your past that do nothing but cause you pain because of old feelings that may you may still feel. Let them all go. Free yourself from the self-imposed negative prison that you have inside you. You will feel like a new person.
Many people come to me for advice about their lives, relationships, and many other things. I tell them my opinion as I see things and they either use it or not. I am not a psychologist or therapist of any kind, and have never claimed to be. I just have a lot of life experience and have faced many different situations that give me a perspective from other people. I never turn my friends down when they need an ear but always tell them up front I can't solve their problems, only tell them what I think about the particular situation.
I have found that my ability to learn Italian is very slow going because I'm always speaking, reading, writing, and communicating in English even though I live in Italy. I get so frustrated at times that I develop headaches and sometimes seizures because of the pressure I put on myself from my own frustration at my inability to communicate or even retain what I have learned already, the way I once did 20 years ago. The way I learn, the very way I think has changed. I don't mean my feelings on things, but the physical way I think.
There are days when my Epilepsy is acting up and I literally have to think about everything I do step by step, before I do it. For example, making coffee is easy and natural and you don't think, you just do it. Well, I am that way also most of the time. But at times, I have to think open the door, grab the coffee, open the top, put it in the machine, close the machine and etc. Do I get frustrated? Yes. Do I put myself down? I used to but now after almost four years healing and being guided and loved by Padrone, I am much better. I have learned to release the frustrations and anxieties that I held on to for so long.
What in your life can you release to help yourself move forward and lighten up? Are there people from your past that you are still in contact with that you shouldn't be? Are there feelings that hurt you for that person? Cut the contact and let the feelings go. You aren't doing your mind, emotions or body any good to hang on to something or someone that only bring you down. Is there someone that just annoys you solely because they breath? Someone that you are jealous of for whatever reason? Someone at work that you can't stand and want to smack in the head with a stapler every time you see them? LET THEM GO!
I understand that we all have people and situations we have to face and deal with that are unavoidable (work, family) but you have the choice in whether you allow them to make you feel frustrated, small, and angry. You have the choice to choose not to go down that negative road, no matter how much that negative person or situation wants to pull you. Make the positive choice and take the positive path. As soon as possible, let go of the frustration, hurt or negative feelings having to deal with these unavoidable situations can put you in.
Do you look down on yourself because of your weight, hair, age, new wrinkles or something else? STOP IT! We are all different. We all, men and women, have many things we don't like about ourselves. But I say love how you look as you are right now! If there are things you want to change, then work on it. but do it for yourself, not for anyone else.
I have changed a lot in the past three and a half years. I have lost and gained weight. Allowed my hair to grow longer. Started wearing dresses and very feminine clothing that I am very comfortable in. My outlook on life has definitely changed along with my growing knowledge of the world around me. Do I look better? I think so. Did I think I was ugly before? No. Do I feel better? Most definitely.
The main thing that has made me much better has been the loving, protected, understanding environment that my fiance, Padrone Marco, has provided me. He has encouraged but not pushed me to change in many of the ways I mentioned above. Most of all, he has allowed me to feel secure with who I am as a person. My outlook on life and my very thinking has grown in many ways, while retaining my own core values that I have always believed in.
Release the negativity and allow yourself the freedom to feel good. Carrying around so much negativity towards people or events can actually affect your mental and physical health. And for what? Because we as humans naturally tend to dwell on more negative items and hang on to the past. Well, its time to try to change your thinking.
It's much easier said than done. Trust me. I live and practice it every day. I have so many things that I can't do or want to do, but because of the Epilepsy or something else, can't. I have learned to live and cope with it. To deal with my limitations but find ways around them. I adapt. Does it take me longer to do stuff? Yes. Do I still have the ability to learn? Yes. Will I give up? No! I have become one of the best adaptive persons that I know. I am very proud of myself for that.
If I can learn and adapt, so can you. Take the time to sit back and just think about who and/or what brings a lot of negativity to your life. Ask yourself how many hours have you wasted, how much brain power, how much hurt, frustration, pain has this person or event brought to you from dwelling on it? When you think about it, you will be amazed at the time and effort wasted.
Remember, life is short. Life is beautiful. We are all meant to be loved and to love. We all have the ability within ourselves to shape our own little piece of this vast world into whatever we want it to be. For some it will be fast, for others it will be slow. Some will have to try and try again. Others will just plow straight through. But you see, that is one of the things that makes life so wonderful; The different paths that each one of us travel and the meeting and crossing of other roads as we make our journey. So why walk the path with so much extra negativity and baggage weighing you down? RELEASE it and travel lighter, in your heart and soul.
We only have this one go around, so fill it with as many rainbows and smiles, as much laughter and love as you can.
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